Friday, September 28, 2012

The Silent Treatment

On Tuesday, I read a blog post called A Simple Trick for Calming an Excited Dog, on the True to Dogs blog. While Elka isn't Super! Excited! All! The! Time! I thought that it would be interesting to try, for my own sake. There are times I talk too much, I know it's true.

For the experiment, we went to a park that we had not visited before. It was totally empty when we pulled up, which was pretty rad. I put the long leash on her, and attached it to the leather leash around my waist. If I was going to go words free, why not hands free too, right?






It was hard for me to get used to not talking. Elka didn't seem to mind much. She noses a piece of bark at one point, in preparation to pick it up. I almost say no, stop myself at the ″nnnn″ sound, but she understands and leaves it. Unable to be entirely silent, I restrict myself to claps, or whistles, and body language in general. There are times she stops and looks at me, maybe confused at my muteness? Maybe to ask if things are all right? I yawned and looked away. She stops and smells the flowers; at least, I think she's smelling the flowers. She might just be smelling other dog pee. Which I tend not to think about, really.



 Elka passes me and goes into the water, splish, splash, kerplunk, kerplunk, and freezes in place when the water is suddenly deeper, up to her chest. She looks at me, and then twists and jumps to bound out, and shakes once she's on dry land again.



I think I hear human voices getting closer, and then I realize it's a loudspeaker wherever it is that the construction is happening. I can hear the scree of tires on the highway overpass, but it's muted by the trees. Red and yellow leaves stir occasionally in the wind, and Elka pounces them with her paws, looking at me brightly afterwards, ″Did you see that?″

(for once, I captured the "did you see that?!" look)

There are pavilions near a tiny playground, aluminum walled and filled with picnic tables. I stand at one and point, to see what Elka will do. She sniffs a moment and puts her front paws on the bench. I give her a treat. I get out another one and hold it further away, to see if she'll get all four paws on the bench. She leans against me and stretches her neck as far as it'll go. I give her the treat anyway and scratch her back. The wind through the aluminum makes a strange thrumming noise, just this side of thunder, and she looks up; she likes watching thunder storms. Out of the sun, I realize how sweaty I've gotten, and looking at Elka, I can see how little energy this has taken from her. 

I start walking again, and slap my thigh for her to heel. She does, looking up at me expectantly, and I wait until I don't think she can do it anymore and pull a rope toy out of my pocket. She grabs it and we tug for a moment, Elka mumble growling around the toy as she shakes it, and I realize I don't have a hand signal for ″drop it″. I snap my fingers (I can only do this with my right hand) and show Elka my empty hand. She lets go of the toy and jumps around like a rearing horse, tags ringing like sleighbells. Good enough.



With all I notice, I wonder what I also miss, out in the world. What can Elka smell that I can't? What can she hear? What do I see, that she misses? A pile of deer poop, for one. The color red. I figure it's time to go, and turn towards the parking lot. Other cars pulled up while we wandered, I turn to Elka, spell broken, and ask her if she can find the car. She perks up, a job to do, and glues her nose to the grass, traveling back and forth as though trailing our scent, her eyes on the direction my feet are pointed, and ″leads″ us back to the car.  


28 comments:

  1. Have a fabulous Friday.
    Best wishes Molly

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  2. What a post. I could feel myself relaxing as I read it. Lovely! Please take a moment to stop by Talking Dogs blog today and pick up your One Lovely Blog Award :-)

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    1. Aww, thanks for the award! (and the compliment ^^)

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  3. It sounds like a great experiment! I will have to try that, although I suspect I will have to say "leave it" at least once! lol

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    1. It was hard! "Leave it" is one of those safety things, frequently. I'm actually pleased (and frequently surprised) at how little I have to tell Elka to leave. We walked right past a scrunched up McDonald's wrapper yesterday with nary a nose dip!

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  4. How great that you got to try this out! I'm not sure if I would be able to be silent for so long but it's worth a try!

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    1. It's definitely worth a try! The park on the long line was my best bet for success, really.

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  5. That was such a nice post, as if I were there -have a nice friday!!!

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    1. Thanks very much! It was a park we hadn't visited before, so it was really nice to be able to experience like this.

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  6. Well after I read your post I had to go read the post that inspired you. I can see how not talking to an over-excited dog might help, but I'm not sure I can NOT talk to my dogs. LOL I'm the crazy dog lady. :-)

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    1. Oh, i'm the crazy dog lady too. Frequently, people on the sidewalk think I'm talking to them, but really, I'm chatting with Elka (Excuse me, move over, I see that, etc.)

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  7. Sounds like a nice day out at the park. I like the way you did it. I don't see value of not interacting (or talking) to your dog for 24 hours.

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    1. The 24 hours I wasn't really sure about, this is true. I think that would truly worry Elka (if she's worried when there's a closed door between us, I really don't know how she'd be if I actively refused to talk to her!) But for a short trip like this, it was a nice experiment. We communicate in so many ways other than talking, it was nice for ME to pay attention for a change!

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  8. It was interesting to read your experiment since i know I could never pull it off.

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    1. Hey, you don't know until you try! I wasn't sure either, but I tried to "set myself up for success" ;)

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  9. I hope my peoples try this type of training, they yammer commands way too much.

    P.S. - I might be "just a dog" but I thought this was beautifully written.

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  10. What a great post! It sounds like your experiment went very well. I love Elka's "Did you see that look"! Have a great weekend. :)

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  11. Hi Guys,

    I think my Mum would struggle to be silent, she's always talking to me! :)

    Great job finding your way back to the car buddy :)

    Hope you're having a fun day :)

    Your pal Snoopy :)

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  12. Great post! Your quiet walk was more successful than mine; there were a few "leave it's" and "no's" that were needed this morning, darn deer poop and squirrels! It's funny how a quiet "no" works, our neighbors are surprised that the punks do listen.

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  13. I like the idea of non-verbal communication with dogs. I can think of instances when it would be important for dogs to understand hand signals and body language. Almost all my verbal commands have physical signal equivalents. Off and on, I use them exclusively, NOT very successfully LOL.

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  14. It sounds like quite the great experience.
    I love doing silent walks with Kyuss... especially on Autumn or Winter evenings when it's eerily silent and all you can hear is your own breath and the wind.

    Elka's quite the smart girl to have figured out you wanted her to drop her toy with snapping your fingers. XD

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  15. What a great idea Jen! I talk to my dogs a lot too. I wonder what would happen and what I would notice if I didn't? Love the experiment and your description of it. Do you think Elka had more fun and found more things to check out? So fascinating.

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  16. You made me conscious of just how much I talk when I'm out with my dogs. I tend to talk more when they're on leash than when they're off leash. Perhaps this is why they are SO much better behaved off-leash? I'm going to try it on-leash to see if they behave differently. Thanks for an interesting idea!

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  17. I go back and forth about silence. I talk because it's important to me. But I know that Honey is having to stretch in a new direction to deal with all my jabbering.

    I do try to have quiet walks with Honey sometimes too. Will you continue your experiment on future walks?

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  18. What a peaceful wordless day with Elka. Looks like we could all stop and smell the roses.

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  19. Kol is one of those dogs that is Excited! All! the! Time! and I find the not talking really does help. Sometimes, when we need to chill out, I'll dimm the lights, turn off all sounds and just read or lay with him.

    Our walks usually are silent, with the exception of that darn leave it command and the with me command (to combat Felix and his pulling)

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  20. Looks like you had a great time! I wish I had a chance to go to parks more often.

    Woofs and huggies, <3

    ~Bailey (Yep, I'm a girl!)

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